话说某天，天庭非常热闹，八方天将天神来为月老庆生！月下老人太高兴了，只顾着与众神欢饮，却忘了把姻缘册这给整理收好。。。
自古到今，为何有数不完的怨偶，单身贵族呢？那是因为呀。。。
孙悟空耍帅大挥金箍棒，来一场老孙万里飞腾白云天！一个不留神，孙悟空把月老的宝贝香油灯给打翻了。。。香油溅湿了一些姻缘册，结果册里的佳偶名字全都糊了！这可是触犯天条的呀！孙悟空趁众神不留意，自认聪明，胡乱把名字给填补了，那些无法补救的就带走，好慢慢修补。。。
凡间所以有。。。
离婚的，名字配对错了！
结很多次婚的，名字重复了！
单身的，也就是家不出或娶不到老婆的啦！， 老孙忘了补写！
同性恋的，老孙不小心把其中一册的配偶名全误写成同性的！
哈哈！我的想象力还不赖吧？
不知道是不是错觉，最近总是有意无意地接触到一些跟快乐有关的话题。似乎许多人都为着种种的问题和烦恼而非常不快乐。压抑、压力处处可见，无处不在。
网上许多帖子也是一直一直地追问究竟如何才能快乐，而什么才是快乐？有些人藉着宗教、玄学等等途径似乎找到了些什么却又是那么似是而非。寻寻觅觅，原来这根本就是得自己追寻的东西又怎么会有答案？
今天突然想起有位长者曾语重心长地说：世事岂能尽如人意，但求无愧于心。
蓦然回首，心豁然开朗。也许，依然不是答案。只是，何苦作茧自缚。
Love asks for everything. And how hard it is to give everything! Indeed, it is impossible. We can tell each other we are in love, we can make a symbolic gesture of commitment, we can even declare it quite dramatically at a wedding ceremony, but even these are just mere messages of intention if based on a feeling of love alone and not on a knowledge of the work and hardships that must also be traversed. No mere mortal can ever live by romantic love alone……….. 
A student asks a teacher, "What is love?" The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big padi, but he wonders….may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one… but may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realize that the padi is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted !!!! So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher told him, "this is love. you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person. ""What is marriage then?" the student asked. The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick. "The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher. The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn. you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get, this is marriage." 头发剪短了 可以在长 辛福失去了 未必找得回 美满的婚姻 不是理所当然的 努力经营 才会有持久的幸福
There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.
When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.
The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise.
The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.
The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree’s life.
He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.
If you give up when it’s winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.
Moral:
Don’t let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.
Don’t judge life by one difficult season.
Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later.
1. Communicate with her; don’t close her out.
2. Talk to her without harshness.
3. Do everything you can to understand her feelings.
4. Be interested in her friends and occasionally give her time to be with them (if they are trustworthy).
5. Ask her opinion frequently.
6. Show her you value what she says.
7. Find ways to help her sense your approval and affection.
8. Protect her on a daily basis.
9. Be gentle and tender with her.
10. Make an effort to laugh together every day — even through the toughest of times.
11. Avoid making sudden major changes without discussion and without giving her time to adjust.
12. Respond openly and verbally when she wants to communicate.
13. Comfort her when she’s down emotionally. For instance, put your arms around her and silently hold her for a few seconds without lectures or put-downs.
14. Show interest in what she feels is important in life.
15. When you feel a need to correct her do it gently and tenderly—speaking
the truth in LOVE.
16. Allow her to teach you without putting up your defenses.
17. Make special time available to her and the children.
18. Go the extra mile to show her that she matters more to you than your need to do something that threatens her sense of security.
19. Compliment her often.
20. Be creative when you express your love, with both words and actions.
21. Sit down with her to set specific family goals to achieve together for each year.
22. Allow her to buy things she considers necessary without hassling her.
23. Be forgiving when she offends you.
24. Show her you need her.
25. Learn to accept her the way she is; discover her uniqueness as special.
26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. She’ll appreciate that!
27. Defend her to others—especially to your family.
28. Allow your wife to fail; lovingly discuss what went wrong after you’ve comforted her.
29. Rub her feet or neck, or scratch her back after a hard day.
30. Take time to sit and talk calmly when either of you is upset about something
31. Take her out on romantic outings.
32. Write her a letter occasionally, telling her how much you love her.
33. Surprise her with a card or flowers.
34. Express to her how much you appreciate her.
35. Tell her how proud you are of her.
36. Give advice in a loving way when she asks for it.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is very important to her.
38. Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention and your time whenever possible.
39. Don’t expect her to do projects beyond her capabilities.
40. Pray for her to enjoy God’s best in life.
41. Brag about her to other people, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
42. Share your thoughts and feelings with her.
43. Tell her more about your job when she expresses interest.
44. Take time to see how she spends her day, at work or at home.
45. Take care of the children before or after dinner (whichever she prefers, to give her time to herself).
46. Pray together with her after a hurtful time.
47. Help straighten up the house after mealtime.
48. Let her take a bubble bath or some other activity while you do the dishes.
Other points can be found from the link :- http://www.marriagemissions.com/romantic/wife100.php
A girl wants a man. A wealthy man, a successful man, a famous man, an interesting man, a macho, a talented man, a loving man, a man she loves, a father for her children, a friend, a sex-machine – details may differ, but the main point stays the same. She wants a man. Some females want just money or a career, but if she denies her willingness to meet a real man – she lies. Moreover, girl’s demands to what she calls a good man vary as she gets older.
A girl of 22 wants a prince on a white horse. A girl may claim she’s realistic and doesn’t look on the world through the pink glasses, but she’ll never confess dreaming of an ideal man. He’s got to be handsome, charming, popular. He’s got to be rich - probably not so rich, but always in funds. Of course, he’s got to be generous to spend money on her. He’s got to be smart, brilliantly smart– to some girls it’s even more important than being very handsome, but of course his mind is never more important than his purse. He’s got to have a great sense of humor, to be athletic, stylish, romantic and a good listener, tender lover and… well, the list of his qualities can be prolonged on and on. A girl wants a man to adore her and to make her the goddess with flowers, gifts and promises of eternal love laid at her feet.
A girl of 32 wants just a good man. She has finally taken off those pink glasses and got rid of romantic fantasies. So her good man mustn’t be a hero – he is good-looking (to her), has good manners, a well-paid job, a good car, a good house, and a good sum of money on a credit card. Also he carries bags from supermarket, likes her home-cooked dinners, laughs at her jokes, remembers the most important dates – like her mom’s birthday, and able to express tenderness not less than one time per week. Such a nice domestic kind of a good man.. (let’s face it, it’s alright not to have a car in S’pore when the Public transport is so convenient)
A girl of 42 wants just a man. That ordinary kind of man is not a movie star, he even has a belly instead of muscles– good if the shirt covers it all; sometimes a head lacking hair, but still isn’t too disgusting. He shaves by the weekends, is still “athletic” enough to do some housework, remembers where to laugh in the jokes, nods to show he’s listening, takes her out once a month, drives her to the supermarket and back, doesn’t set the car in motion until all women’s parts of body are in, and puts the water-closet pan’s seat down.
A girl of 52 wants… well she just lives with that man. It’s really nice if he remembers her name, shaves during weekends, sometimes gets a haircut, changes underwear and socks regularly, borrows money not too often, tries to behave himself in public. It’s great if he also finds the strength to leave the coach for some weekends, notices delicious dinner while watching TV, doesn’t always fall asleep while listening to a person. By this age a woman doesn’t expect much, in fact she asks for the very minimum.
A girl of 62 wants a man who won’t disturb her too often. She’s a lucky one, if he’s not too scary to make his own grandchildren cry, if he still remembers where the bathroom is, where his teeth are, what month it is, who this woman is, what he is laughing at, and etc. A woman will appreciate his ability to get up, dress properly without much help from her side. The top of all dreams is if it doesn’t cost a lot to keep that man, and if there are some places in the house, where his snore doesn’t reach.
A girl of 72… well, some “girls” do live that long, but what about men? Are you sure he’s still breathing? And he doesn’t leave puddles in the water-closet? Oh, that’s a real treasure for a tired girl of 72.
Since relationships have been broken, one might be tempted to hold his/her way of disenchantment and vengeance. Getting over a break up with dignity is the only outlet to relationship rescue from ?heartbreak hotel?.
Filled with love and hatred, one would better resort to relationship help of dealing both with self-torture and spiritual egotism. The essence of relationship break up management is individual?s ability to forgive and to forget. Relationship help methods appeal to comprehension of mistakes made and admission of love lost.
Above all one needs to bring order to his/her life literally and psychologically. If it were not for relationship management help, one would fight a losing battle for afterglow phantom. Avoid getting bogged down in love fever, even though he/she used to be the love of your life.
Guided by relationship break up management rules, one ought to abandon his/her fancy dreams of your partner crawling up with the tail between the legs. Get rid of gifts, photos and everything that keeps you on the alert by reminding the good old times. The principle "out of sight, out of mind", is the ace of trumps in relationship rescue.
Affording yourself to give vent to your sorrow, tell your friends for the hundredth time about his admiring your smile. Afterwards, apply for relationship help therapy of refreshing in mind the most unpleasant moments and irritating deeds of your partner. Having reached your aim, you’d be perplexed by the image of paltry individual you’ve been in love with. Neither love story, nor romance relationship is to last forever, although it?s a precious experience of relationship management to derive benefit from.
One shouldn?t leave it out of account that anger is direct opposite to love. Therefore he/she would rather concentrate his/her attention on someone worth notice in order to cope with feelings, ringing the relationship management bell.
While making an attempt to take revenge, one provokes raising his/her back against mental progress and stagnating of relationship break up management.. Reveling in insidious plan to spoil his/her life, one reopens old scores and impedes recovery process. Uncovered openly hostile actions just adulate your offender as they are counted for a sign of feelings, saved in your heart.
Obsessed by lust for revenge, remember that happy life of yours is the best vengeance to your ex-lover. Direct energies at finding, learning and loving yourself. Strike up a new romance and devote yourself to any activity or interest so that you?ve cleaned up your mind. Get up, brush your teeth, watch romantic movie, smile and forgive your ex for cold-hearted ?good bye?.
In course of time ask yourself whether relationship help strategy has approved itself. Suppose you answers to the statements below were positive as a whole, you would celebrate victory of relationship management efficiency.
1)You are not going to cry your eyes out over the sounds of your might-have-been wedding song.
2) You are not comparing a new friend with your ex-love on a blind date.
3) You feel like spending evening all alone at home.
4) Your ex-partner is not the first to know about your salary increase.
5) A thought of him scarcely crosses your mind.
6) You have lost that pleasant sensation of his/her fingers, touching your skin
Congratulations!
"Can I see my baby?" the happy new mother asked. When the bundle was nestled in her arms and she moved the fold of cloth to look upon his tiny face, she gasped. The doctor turned quickly and looked out the tall hospital window. The baby had been born without ears.
Time proved that the baby’s hearing was perfect. It was only his appearance that was marred. When he rushed home from school one day and flung himself into his mother’s arms, she sighed, knowing that his life was to be a succession of heartbreaks. He blurted out the tragedy. "A boy, a big boy…called me a freak."
He grew up, handsome for his misfortune. A favorite with his fellow students, he might have been class president, but for that. He developed a gift, a talent for literature and music. "But you might mingle with other young people," his mother reproved him, but felt a kindness in her heart.
The boy’s father had a session with the family physician… "Could nothing be done?" "I believe I could graft on a pair of outer ears, if they could be procured" the doctor decided. Whereupon the search began for a person who would make such a sacrifice for a young man.
Two years went by. One day, his father said to the son, "You’re going to the hospital, son. Mother and I have someone who will donate the ears you need. But it’s a secret," said the father.
The operation was a brilliant success, and a new person emerged. His talents blossomed into genius, and school and college became a series of triumphs.
Later he married and entered the diplomatic service. One day, he asked his father, "Who gave me the ears? Who gave me so much? I could never do enough for him or her." "I do not believe you could," said the father, "but the agreement was that you are not to know…not yet." 
The years kept their profound secret, but the day did come. One of the darkest days that ever pass through a son. He stood with his father over his mother’s casket. Slowly, tenderly, the father stretched forth a hand and raised the thick, reddish brown hair to reveal the mother had no outer ears.
"Mother said she was glad she never let her hair be cut," his father whispered gently, "and nobody ever thought mother less beautiful, did they"?
REMEMBER… 
Real beauty lies not in the physical appearance,
but in the heart.
Real treasure lies not in what can be seen,
but what cannot be seen.
Real love lies not in what is done and known,
but in what that is done but not known.
